Question: I know some people write their own vows, but I don't know where to begin. Do you have any suggestions?
Answer: One thing to consider is the overall tone. If you are having a lighthearted ceremony, you can add something funny like, "I promise to watch Cubs games with you, even though I love the Sox." If you are aiming for something more serious, I would advise staying away from jokes!
One place to start is by making a list of the things you love about your partner. Your vows don't necessarily have to be a list of things you promise to do. You may want to tell your partner what you love about him or her, and describe how your life has changed since you met.
You may also want to refer to some examples and "borrow" from these. It's okay if the words aren't completely original, as long as the sentiment behind them is real.
Try these resources:
"The Everything Wedding Vow Book" by Janet Anastasio, et al
"The Knot Guide to Wedding Vows and Traditions"
"Your Special Wedding Vows" by Naylor